BOOKS FOR NAVIGATING YOUR LEGAL and PSYCHOLOGICAL DIVORCE

Berry, Dawn Bradley. The Divorce Sourcebook: Protect Yourself With Must Know Information. 2006

Botwinick, Amy. Congratulations On Your Divorce: The Road To Finding Your Happily Ever After. 2005

Briles, Judith , Schilling, Edwin, & Wilson, Carol Ann. The Dollars and Sense of Divorce.  1998

Call, Carolyne. Spiritually Healthy Divorce: Navigating Disruption With Insight and Hope. 2010 (Call, an ordained minister, includes a structure for group sessions that can be used by faith-based groups.)

Cohen, Gabriel. Storms Can’t Hurt The Sky: A Buddhist Path Through Divorce. 2008

Colgrove, Melba, Bloomfield, Harold & McWilliams, Peter. How To Survive The Loss of A Love. 1993

de Ley, Gerd. Divorce, Get Over It! 2006 (humorous quotes)

Doskow, Emily. Nolo’s Essential Guide to Divorce. 2008

Elliott, Susan. Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You. 2009

Engel, Margorie. Divorce Help Sourcebook. 1994

Engel, Margorie. The Divorce Decisions Workbook:  A Planning And Action Guide To The Practical Side Of Divorce. 1991

Fisher, Bruce. Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends. 3^rd Edition, 2005

Fisher, Bruce. Rebuilding Workbook: When Your Relationship Ends. 2001

Ford, Debbie. Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life. 2001 & 2006 (Ford, a leader in self-help circles, uses tenets from Jungian psychology, 12-step programs, and A Course in Miracles.)

Frisbie, David & Lisa. Moving Forward After Divorce: Practical Steps To Healing Your Hurts, Finding Fresh Perspective, and Managing Your New Life. 2006. (Written for the Christian audience.)

Gadoua, Susan Pease. Contemplating Divorce: A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go. 2008

Gold, Lois. The Healthy Divorce: Keys To Ending Your Marriage While Preserving Your Emotional Well-Being. 2009 (Gold, a social worker and a past president of the National Academy of Family Mediators, mediates in Portland, OR.)

Hudson, Pat. You Can Get Over Divorce: The Seven-step Program to Speed Your Healing So That You Can Get On With The Rest of Your Life. 1998 (Hudson, a psychologist, uses stories to illustrate the seven steps of her program for moving from pain to restoration and getting over divorce.)

Jong, Erica. Megan’s Book of Divorce: A Kid’s Book for Adults. 1985

Kahn, Sandra. Leaving Him Behind: Cutting The Cord and Breaking Free After The Marriage Ends. 1990

Kingma, Daphne Rose. Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How To Live Through The Ending Of Yours. 2000

Kirshenbaum, Mira. Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay:  A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship. 1997

Kniskern, Joseph & Grissom, Steve. When The Vow Breaks: A Survival and Recovery Guide for Christians Facing Divorce. 2007

Krantzler, Mel. Creative Divorce: A New Opportunity For Personal Growth. 2002

Krantzler, Melvin & Belli, Mel. Divorcing. 1992 (Co-authored by a well-known therapist and a celebrity attorney.)

Lowrance, Michele. The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions Into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life. 2009

Manfred, Erica. He’s History, You’re Not : Surviving Divorce After 40. 2009.

Margulies, Sam. Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life: A Reasoned, Practical Guide to the Legal, Emotional and Financial Ins and Outs of Negotiating a Divorce. 2001

McWade, Micki . Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve Step Guide to Divorce Recovery. 1999

Napolitano, Don.  Divorce: Why Me? Why Not! 2010

Oberlin, Loriann . Surviving Separation and Divorce: A Woman’s Guide to Regaining control, Building strength and confidence, and Securing a financial future. 2^nd Edition, 2005

Rooks, Linda. Broken Heart On Hold: Surviving Separation. 2006 (Christian)

Scorzafava, Tracy. Divorce 101: A Woman’s Guide To Divorce. 2004

Sember, Brette McWhorter. The Divorce Organizer Planner. 2004

Sharvit, Ethan. Survival and Beyond: A Man’s Guide to Divorce. 2008

Shenkman, Martin & Hamilton, Michael. Divorce Rules For Men: A Man to Man Guide for Managing Your Split and Saving Thousands. 2000

Smith, Gayle Rosenwald. Divorce and Money: Everything You Need To Know. 2004

Smoke, Jim. Growing Through Divorce. 1995 (Christian)

Snyder, Baucom, & Gordon. Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On – Together or Apart. 2007.

Stoner, Katherine. Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. 2009

Swallow, Wendy. Breaking Apart: A Memoir of Divorce. 2002

Temlock, Marsha. Your Child’s Divorce: What To Expect, What You Can Do. 2006 (A book for parent’s whose adult children are undergoing divorce.)

Trafford, Abigail. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building A New Life. 1992

Ventura, John & Reed, Mary. Divorce For Dummies. 2009

Webb, Stuart & Ousky, Ronald. The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method That Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids – Without Going to Court. 2007

Weintraub, Pamela & Hillman, Terry. The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Surviving Divorce.  3rd Edition, 2005.

West, Kari. When He Leaves: Help and Hope For Hurting Wives. 1998

Wild, Russell & Susan E. The Unofficial Guide To Getting A Divorce. 2nd Edition, 2005

Woodhouse, Violet. Divorce and Money: How to Make the Best Financial Decisions During Divorce. 2011

BOOKS FOR PARENTS and Co-PARENTS

Ackerman, Marc. Does Wednesday Mean Mom’s House or Dad’s? Parenting Together While Living Apart. 2^nd Edition 2008

Ahrons, Constance. The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart. 1995

Ahrons, Constance & Rodgers, Roy. Divorced Families: Meeting the Challenge of Divorce and Remarriage. 1989

Ashley, Steven. The Long-Distance Dad: How You Can Be There For Your Child – Whether Divorced, Deployed, or On-the-road. 2008

Bailey, Jack. The Parental Peace Accord. 2007

Bailey, Gary. Divorce For Dads: Making The Right Choices For Your Kids. (Written specifically for the South African market.) 2010

Banschick, Mark. The Intelligent Divorce: Because Your Kids Come First. 2010

Barr, Debbie. Caught in the Crossfire: Children of Divorce. 1986

Berger, Stuart. Divorce Without Victims. 1986

Beyer, Roberta.  Speaking of Divorce:  How to Talk with Your Kids and Help Them Cope.  2001

Bienenfeld, Florence. Helping Your Child Through Divorce. 1995

Blau, Melinda. Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting. 1995

Burrett, Jill & Green, Michael. Shared Parenting: Raising Your Child Cooperatively After Separation. 2009

Clapp, Genevieve. Divorce and New Beginnings: A Complete Guide to Recovery, Solo Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Stepfamilies. 2000

Cohen, Miriam . Long Distance Parenting: A Guide for Divorced Parents. 1991

Cohen, Miriam. The Joint Custody Handbook. 1991

Deutsch, Francine. Halving It All: How Equally Shared Parenting Works. 2000

Diamond, Susan A. Helping Children of Divorce: A Handbook for Parents and Teachers. 1986

Emery, Robert. The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing With The Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive. 2004

Everett, Craig & Sandra. Healthy Divorce: For Parents and Children: An Original, Clinically Proven Program for Working Through the Fourteen Stages of Separation, Divorce, and Remarriage. 1998

Favaro,Peter. Smart Parenting During and After Divorce: The Essential Guide to Making Divorce Easier on Your Child. 2008

Gardner, Richard A. The Parents’ Book About Divorce. 1991 (Gardner is a child psychiatrist.)

Hannibal, Mary Ellen. Good Parenting Through Your Divorce: The Essential Guidebook To Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive Based on the Leading National Program. 2006

Hansen, Deb. Broken Strings: Wisdom for Divorced and Separated Families. 2007 (Hansen is a writer and parenting educator.)

Johnson, Colleen. Ex- Familia : Grandparents , Parents and Children Adjust to Divorce. 1988

Jones- Soderman, Jill, Quattrocchi, Allison, & Steinberg, Sheila. How To Talk To Your Children About Divorce. 2006

Klumpp, Mike. The Single Dad’s Survival Guide: How To Succeed As A One-Man Parenting Team. 2003

Knox, David & Leggett, Kermit. The Divorced Dad’s Survival Book: How to Stay Connected with Your Kids. 2000

Lansky, Vicki. Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope With Divorce and Its Aftermath. 1996

Lapin, Renae. School Days and The Divorce Maze: A Complete Guide for Joint Custody Parents in Managing Your Child’s Successful School Career. 2008

Long, Nicholas & Forehand, Rex. Making Divorce Easier On Your Child: 50 Effective Ways To Help Children Adjust. 2002

Lowenstein, Liana. Creative Interventions For Children Of Divorce. 2006

Marquardt, Elizabeth. Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce. 2006

Neuman, M. Gary. Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce The Sandcastles Way. 1998 (Neuman,a couselor and rabbi, is the creator of Sandcastles TM – a 3.5 hour program, available in Miami and other cities, that encourages children to speak, draw, write and otherwise express their feelings about divorce. This book is for parents who dont have access to the program.)

Newman, George. 101 Ways To Be A Long Distance Super- Dad or Mom, Too. 2006

Ricci, Isolina. Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child. 1997.

Ross, Julie & Corcoran, Judy. Joint Custody With A Jerk: Raising A Child With An Uncooperative Ex. 1996

Schab, Lisa. The Divorce Workbook For Children: Help For Kids To Overcome Difficult Family Changes And Grow Up Happy. 2008 (Activities to teach kids to stay out of the middle, communicate their needs, and cope with stress and change.)

Schneider, Meg & Zuckerberg, Joan. Difficult Questions Kids Ask and Are Afraid to Ask About Divorce. 1996

Sedacca, Rosalind. How Do I Tell The Kids About The Divorce? A Create-A-Storybook Guide To Preparing Your Child – With Love! An e-book available at http://www.howdoitellthekids.com/

Sommers-Flanagan, Elander, & Sommers-Flanagan. Don’t Divorce Us!: Kids Advice To Divorcing Parents. 2000

Stewart, Copeland, Chester, Malley, & Barenbaum.  Separating Together: How Divorce Transforms Families. 1997

Teyber, Edward. Helping Children Cope With Divorce. 2001

Thayer, Elizabeth & Zimmerman, Jeffrey. The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After A Difficult Divorce. 2001

Thomas, Shirley. Parents Are Forever: A Step-by-step Guide to Becoming Successful Co-parents After Divorce. 2004

Turner, Kristine. New Beginnings for Divorcing Parents – Co-Parenting Divorce Workbook. 2010

Turner, Kristine. Mommy and Daddy Are Getting Divorced: Helping Children Cope With Divorce. 2010 (A read-along-with-your-children book)

Vachon, Marc & Amy. Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents. 2010

Virtue, Doreen. My Kids Don’t Live With Me Anymore: Coping With The Custody Crisis. 1988

Wallerstein, Judith & Kelly, Joan. Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce. 1996

Wallerstein, Judith & Blakeslee, Sandra. Second Chances: Men, Women & Children A Decade After Divorce: Who Wins, Who Loses – And Why. 2004

Wallerstein, Judith, Lewis, Julia & Blakeslee, Sandra. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 Year Landmark Study. 2001

Wallerstein, Judith. What About The Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce. 2004

Walther, Anne. Divorce Hangover: A Successful Strategy to End the Emotional Aftermath of Divorce. 2000

Walther, Anne. Not Damaged Goods: A Successful Strategy for Children of Divorce From Infancy to Adulthood. 2001

Warshak, Richard. Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing.  2010  (Dr Warshak has also created a DVD designed to help children and teens see family issues from another perspective and so avoid parental alienation and taking sides.  The DVD is available at http://www.warshak.com/resources/video.html.)

Wassil-Grimm, Claudette. Where’s Daddy? How Divorced, Single and Widowed Mothers Can Provide What’s Missing When Dad’s Missing. 1994

Wolf, Anthony. Why Did You Have To Get A Divorce? And When Can I Get A Hamster? A Guide To Parenting Through Divorce. 1998

BOOKS FOR ADULT CHILDREN of DIVORCE

Abbas, Jen. Generation Ex: Adult Children of Divorce and the Healing of Our Pain. 2004 (Written for the faith based community.)

Ahrons, Constance. We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce. 2005

Fintushel, Noelle & Hillard, Nancy. A Grief Out of Season: When Your Parents Divorce in Your Adult Years. 1991

Foster, Brooke Lea. The Way They Were: Dealing with Your Parents’ Divorce After a Lifetime of Marriage. 2006

Piorkowski, Geraldine. Adult Children of Divorce: Confused Love Seekers. 2008

Sandvig, Karen Stockdale. Adult Children of Divorce: Haunting Problems and Healthy Solutions. 1990

Staal, Stephanie. The Love They Lost: Living with the Legacy of Our Parents’ Divorce. 2001 (Stories of 120 “Generation Ex-” adults who grew up divorced and are now adults longing for intimacy and connection, but fearing commitment and expecting failure, abandonment, and hurt.)

Zimmerman, Jeffrey & Thayer, Elizabeth. Adult Children of Divorce: How to Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents’ Break-up and Enjoy Love, Trust, and Intimacy. 2003 (For adults whose parents divorced when they were children.)